ÿþLet's look at this through the lense of logic, reason, evidence-based swimming cap practical advice about what consistutes human well-being and flourishing, as well as decades of women just wasting their precious lives praying/waiting for "change." If you really think you are being fooled, played, etc.  why deal at all in some waiting game ( even if children are involved)? Why would you ever wait for anything to "change?"  Especially given the recidivism rates re:abuse. How would you ever even know what had sustainably, actually,  really changed? People can repent all their lives of all kinds of things, where is the evidence-based data (out-of-sample) for real metanoia? The kind described here for example: The Great Meaning of Metanoia: An Underdeveloped Chapter in the Life and Teachings of Christ  by Treadwell Walden.

If you worry about what the Bible says, maybe realize/research that the final redaction of the New Testament is not treated in current texts of the New Testament. This creates the very false impression that a final redaction never occurred. However, all the evidence provided by the extant manuscripts indicates that the history of the New Testament is the history of those redactional editions. You can just rest safely in that for starters, and that's just for starters (re:The First Edition of the New Testament re:Throckmorton-Hayes) there is plenty more you swimming cap for kids can stand on. I am thankful for CORE strength. For clarity on fantasy thinking (this is it, it will be different now) For clarity on boundaries. For clarity on truth. For other women's stories; I am not alone. For clarity on my responsibility.

For a clearer relationship with the Lord in part because of these. For slowly gaining my voice. For blogs like this that I need to here for continued and growing clarity and swimming cap in walmart strength. Your real God is your values that you embody. That you act out/ that you live out....Not my talk, not what I say, what I embody by actually living it out. It could be, however, that this concept of "what glorifies God most" overrides anything commanded in the Bible.  I very much like that concept; however, when we operate that way, logic can be used to just justify almost anything. I can claim: well, I believe this glorifies God the most not what was said in context using normative and historical hermeneutics and exegesis....Not what Christians, many whom gave their lives for Christ, said for a thousand plus years.

More than this, I think we can tell what our God is by simply looking at the highest value that we embody/ that we act out.  That is our God. The thing that always hangs me is swimming cap at walmart that if the Bible needs amendments, needs text-twisting, needs cherry-picking, I don't think we have an absolute moral standard, but a free-for-all. Hermeneutics, exegesis, text-deconstruction can be used to logic to whatever conclusion we like. More than this, to think that we are not massively biased (including me, maybe especially me) is naive....What appears to me to be the way to find "The Truth" (As best we can, given our limitations) is to make an iron-man out of arguments we don't like, not a straw-man. Then we see if we can honestly deconstruct those iron-men,  if we can! We make the strongest case possible for what we don't want, what we don't like to do and we see if we can honestly make a better case than that.

I've always been taught from a strong submission standpoint and felt like if I just loved him unconditionally he would eventually change and if not my treasures would be in heaven. It's hard to know where to draw the line, because he is not physically or verbally abusing me as long as I meet his needs. You are not in a healthy thriving marriage, you most likely are trying to survive living with a very selfish  boy' like person that thinks marriage is about his needs being met and no ~ one has been able to teach him some important principles about life and relationships. The first important principle is : Healthy relationships are two sided. Unhealthy are one sided, or lopsided! One person over-functioning and givingand the other  taking' and thinking that's how it should play out. Not so. Kaitlyn, you need a support team to move forward in greater health.

I have support of so many people at church and friends. I'm being told that I am doing the right thing in divorcing him. Have spoken with pastor couple of times and he told me I was not bound in this marriage. It just hurts to think about living w/o him but I cannot live with someone who doesn't respect me and is always tearing swimming cap at target me down emotionally. There has been physical abuse. He has lied to me. He totaled my car back in Jan. I agree with Aly's comments. From the vast research I've done, and from personal experience, I would say that they CAN but it's extremely rare, because they don't really want to (even though they may say they do.) They have to want to change (repent: change of mind and direction), and then they have to humble themselves and submit to those who can help them re-learn how to relate to others from a position of equality, respect, and mutuality.